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The handkerchief code (also acknowledged as the hanky code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male casual-sex seekers or BDSM practitioners in the United States, Canada, Australia and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex they are seeking, and whether they are a top/dominant or bottom/submissive. The hanky code was widely used in the s by gay and attracted to both genders men, and grew from there to include all genders and orientations.
Today, wearing color-coded handkerchiefs (bandanas) is the manner in which communication of desires and fetishes is achieved. Wearing a handkerchief on the left side of the body typically indicates one is a &#;top&#; (one considered active in the practice of the desire indicated by the paint of the handkerchief), while wearing it on the right side of the body would indicate one is a &#;bottom&#; (one considered passive in the practice of the obsession indicated by the paint of the handkerchief). This left-right reality is taken from the earlier habit of tops wearing their keys on the left belt loop and bottoms on the right to indicate being a member of the leather subculture. Bandan
When two men are negotiating a sexual encounter or even compatibility to meet, the phrase “What are you into?” will inevitably come from one or both.. Quite often in “Grindr” chat, this is shortened to be simply “into?” — just prefer ships used cyphers (flags) to communicate, we same-sex attracted men have our have way to communicate sexual preferences and proclivities. It’s called the Hanky Code.
Originating in the early ’s in either New York or San Francisco (let’s not even try to settle that debate), the hanky code is a system of signaling sexual preferences, fetishes, and roles by choosing to wear a specifically colored bandana on a particular side of the body. With just a glance at your rear end, (the bandana being tucked in your back pocket) anyone who is in-the-know will know what you’re “into!”
So how do you grasp which color to wear, and where to wear it? The first critical variable is the side of the body on which you choose to wear your colors, because this signals your preferred role:
- Left side of the body = Top/Dominant Role
- Right side of the body = Bottom/Submissive Role
As a way to remember which is which, consider that we read left to right, so left comes first. Similarly,
Flagging for some hanky panky &#; deciphering the gay handkerchief code
By Chris Williams, updated 4 months ago in Lifestyle / LGBT people and culture
Have you ever noticed a guy with a coloured bandana or handkerchief sticking out of his help pocket? Bless you for not knowing how wearing one became the symbol of a secret sex language. Here’s how to decipher what it all means.
The hanky code has been a part of underground gay culture for over 40 years, and if you don’t understand what it’s all about, we’ll get you up to speed in no time.
Perhaps more prevalent in the leather community, you might still find a few practitioners of this means of secret exchange. But what’s the hanky code?
What is the hanky code?
It’s pretty straightforward. Wearing a coloured handkerchief or a bandana in a particular location on your body can be a way to indicate to somebody else what caring of sex you adore. Colours or patterns illustrate a different sexual task, while the positioning indicates your preference of role.
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The bandana is often on display sticking out of a support pocket, or occasionally tied around the upper arm. Typically, the to
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